Real estate agents tend to be a little, well, obsessed with real estate. If you don't believe me take a quick peek around ActiveRain. Day or night, while at home or on vacation, during holidays and weekends, you will find agents here blogging away about every topic imaginable.
I completely understand the obsession. When I was an agent, I was obsessed as well. Looking back upon it, I now realize how much time I spent thinking about real estate, writing about real estate, working in real estate. It is, quite simply, an all-consuming profession.
When you first become an agent, you aren't immediately thrown into the craziness. As your business grows you constantly strive for better, more productive and more innovative ways to work. All that extra effort leads to more work, more buyers and more sellers.
Since building a successful business doesn't happen overnight, that all-consuming aspect of the business just creeps up on you like a shadow. You never even know what hit you! For some, that craziness is welcome and they thrive upon it. For others, like me, it is hard if not impossible to achieve a good work/life balance amid the chaos and 24/7 days.
When I decided to leave the real estate business I honestly expected that it would be a difficult transition from agent to non-agent because you pretty much have to do it cold turkey. The first few days and weeks I considered "detox" time. No more access to the MLS, no more phone calls at all odd hours of the day and night, no more late night blogging, working leads, worrying about how my sellers would come up with their next mortgage payment, or wondering whether the home inspection would reveal some scary deal-breaker defect. On the flip side, no more excitement of finding the "right" house and closing deals either.
What I found is that as I progressed through the days and then weeks of life outside of real estate, I started rediscovering who I am as a person instead of as an agent. I also started eating better, cooking more often, taking an exercise class, sleeping soundly, and smiling more. I can now go hours, if not whole days without checking my email. I even lost 9 pounds! Quite simply, I got my life back.
Since I'm not independently wealthy, I've been looking for a new opportunity (outside of my referral business). While interviewing for my transition back into the working world, I found myself walking through offices of cheerful, productive people who receive steady paychecks every two weeks and picturing myself in their midst. I'd always considered the "flexibility" of real estate to be a misnomer because it seemed like I was always working and the flexibility was me being flexible and working around the schedules of others. But these people got nights and weekends off! These people took vacations and were still paid for those days off! These people got benefits! Promotions! Lunch breaks! They had a life outside of the office!
Now, don't think for one minute that I don't fully understand what it's like to be in the regular business world. I've been there, done that. And I'm ready to do it again, with eyes wide open and a happy heart.
In fact, I just got a great job offer. It offers tons of vacation, fantastic hours, a professional environment and a wonderful opportunity to use all my old skills and learn new ones too. I'm going to say yes...yes to this new job, my new life. I'm so excited.
So what is the lesson in all of this? It's simple: If real estate is not making you happy, go out and find something that will. I promise you that there's more to life than real estate!
Life is a journey. Find your nirvana.

If you are a consumer looking for a good real estate agent, give me a call. As a referral agent (I'm no longer involved in the day to day real estate business), I can help match you with the perfect agent to help you buy or sell your home.